Say Yes to Life and No to Labels, Limits & Excuses

What You Will Learn In This Episode

In this episode, we talked about how to create change and how to overcome the beliefs that hold us back. Sarah shared how important it is to know what you really want to create in life so that you can live your own goals instead of someone else’s. She dove into principles about how to step off the edges we face of uncertainty, as we step towards what we know in our heart that we need to. Sarah shared the biggest challenges she has faced when she knew she needed to change things in her life to be more present with the people she loves.

What I loved About This Interview

What an incredible interview with Sarah Boxx, author of the Changemaker Ripple Effect! Sarah has such a huge heart and willingness to serve. Her book is a collaboration of stories of people who are changing their world through their work. Her ability to uncover stories of the everyday hero and search for common themes about how they are changing the world through their work is incredible.

I really enjoyed hearing Sarah talk about the tangible steps we can take to overcome the beliefs that hold us back. I think it is so important to be able to do this so we can step off the edges of the comfort zone to move towards our true potential.

I truly loved Sarah’s willingness to be vulnerable to share some of the edges she has faced in her life, and how she has taken steps forward to overcome them.

Who is Sarah?

Sarah Boxx, MA is best known as a strategic vision coach, consultant, podcast host, change agent and best-selling author (The Changemaker Ripple Effect, 2016). One of her many passions is coaching and mentoring high-achieving individuals, teams and organizations to get clear on their purpose, set a direction, and address obstacles (real and perceived) on the way to success.  “My determination and ability to view the world through possibilities and innovative eyes has been a gift I have honed over the years. I continue to observe new situations and quickly assess opportunities to uncover and transform potential – my own and what I see in others. Even more important, I am able to coach others on the path to achieving their goals.”

She pulls from more than 30 years of professional experience and 140 projects working in and assisting the corporate sector, entrepreneurs, County Commission, state agencies, charter schools, nonprofit organizations, foundations, and local, regional and state collaborative networks. Her deep commitment to the nonprofit included serving as an Executive Director, crisis line volunteer, victim advocate, board member, board and staff coach, and leadership development trainer.  She was honored to receive the National Governors Association Award for distinguished service to government.

Bonus Wisdom

These are questions that I asked Sarah outside our interview. You are going to love her answers!

What is 1 thing you believe every woman entrepreneur should know?

You owe it to yourself and the world to shine brightly and powerfully.

When is a time in your life when you went through a challenge or felt like giving up?

There have been many times I faced challenges during my life. I came close to giving up (meaning: settling and staying safe), but ultimately did not.

I can talk about the time when I was 18 or 19 that I found myself being paid well in a job and dying on the inside. Work, work, and more work – lots of kudos and nice people – but losing self until I took a chance, a different job (less pay, higher expenses, no experience), and moved cities, only to find that age discrimination is real, and renting was a problem due to gender and age.

I can talk about working in my early twenties for a great boss, in a stable corporation, growing skills and knowledge in a field I knew absolutely nothing about when I stepped up onto a loading dock. I enjoyed the people and experience; and was caught between a rock and a hard place (really great wages and benefits at the expense of my health – night shift).

Or, when I worked for a family-run manufacturing company, doing interesting work, and I found myself needing to choose my values over my paycheck, ultimately giving notice (without a backup plan – or any plan at all, truth be told.)

How did you overcome this?

Stubbornness and belief in myself kept me going…

In all instances, I trusted my gut. I also asked a few trusted individuals to help me think through the situations and options. Since I had always (up to each point in time) landed back on my feet, even if it took a long time and had hard lessons, I figured I’d survive.

My “ace in the hole” was knowing that as long as my parents were alive, I’d have a place to come and land if needed. They could not offer financial help, but they could let me stay for a bit.

What did you learn from it?

As scary as the “big” decisions are, they are ALWAYS worth making. Even when things don’t go as hoped/planned, they often turn out better. I would have never met and married my best friend and husband had I stayed safe and followed the easy, sure path.

What is the one area of life or business you have expertise in?

Reframing for growth and positive interpretation; the gem-lessons.

What is one thing you want to share about this that will make all the difference for women?

There is nothing, absolutely nothing, wasted about what has brought you to this exact moment in time. The only loss is not taking what you have and who you are and letting all of you shine brightly and powerfully into the world.

What is one thing that you wish someone told you that you had to learn the hard way?

Someone actually did tell me this, I just did not understand it until I was older and had more experiences. I have held onto it ever since:

“Don’t ever be afraid to stand up and lead. You were born to do it. People trust you and will follow you because they know you care about them.”

Please tell me about your family.

I am the fourth of seven children. I have four nephews, five great-nephews, and lots of cousins.

I said I would never get married, and then I met the man who would someday be my husband while doing child advocacy work. We became close professional friends over the years. The joke is that I was stalking him (he’s retired law enforcement) after his divorce. Not really true, but… hmm. He definitely said he would never remarry. Well, you know what they say about saying never. We’ve been married for almost 18 years. That gifted me with two great step-kids, six very cool and interesting grandchildren, and buckets of in-law relations.

What is one of the biggest challenges you have faced with balancing work, family, and taking care of yourself & what did you learn from it?

It took me a long time to be able to put my health and well being first. It was always easier, and I thought imperative, to say yes to work. I have a strong connection to my husband and our family, so saying yes to the kids and grandkids mattered, as did helping my siblings.  Finally, I just carved out morning time for me. Then I added “dates” for my self-care to my calendar. The more I stayed with it, the less guilty or worried I felt. And, the better I navigated the many roles.

What did you learn from this challenge?

Balance is a lie, an illusion. Life is not static. Trying to hold one position (balance) leads to frustration and staying in one place, while life moves gloriously forward around us.

Nimble, creative, and calm serve me better, and that comes from taking care of myself, my family and my businesses.

What helps you balance these roles now?

I cut myself slack. I know I am always doing my best (type A, an overachiever and all…) and I will never be “perfect”.  Grace. And, when I’m feeling really “wacked out”, I talk to my husband for a healthy dose of “let’s get realism.”

I also calendar/block time, say “no” to in-person meetings that don’t have a clear purpose/agenda, or which could be handled remote just as effectively.

What is one resource that you love (a book, app, service)

Ahhh… too tough to prioritize. Pick what you think would resonate most with your audience. I’ve also added a couple of my affiliate links for folks that want to try the product and see if they like it. I’m also happy to spend time talking about them if any of your listeners would find value in it.

  • Audible – I love books and listen/re-listen to my favorites. No matter where I am, I can have a book with me.  
    • https://www.audible.com/ep/affiliate-intro
  • Kindle – same reason. I sometimes have both versions of a title.
  • Stitcher – love listening and learning through others’ experiences.
  • Fresh Books – when I went from a corporate environment to running my own company again, this app/service let me keep high standards for accounting, time tracking, proposal development, and invoicing. Saves me hours each month. And, the dashboard is really helpful.
    • https://www.shareasale.com/shareasale.cfm?merchantID=52946
  • Instant Pot – got me back in the kitchen cooking healthy meals.
    • https://store.instantpot.com/pages/affiliate-program

If you have written books or have a blog, what are the titles and where can I find them?

  • The Changemaker Ripple Effect: How One Person Can Transform the Lives of Thousands When Driven by Passion, Purpose and Boldness   https://amzn.to/2F9OYV9
  • The Changemaker Coloring Notebook: Stress Relief and Inspiration for a Life Lived in the Present Moment   https://amzn.to/2SAQ8wP

Which one is most relevant to women intrapreneurs and entrepreneurs?

My weekly blog and the Changemaker Coloring Notebook would be most useful. The Blog for its content on a variety of personal and business development topic. The Coloring Notebook because it allows mental space for reflection while coloring and actual space for jotting down notes and ideas next to each coloring page.

Blog link: http://www.sarahboxx.com/blog/

Coloring Notebook: Stress Relief and Inspiration for a Life Lived in the Present Moment

How to Connect with Sarah:

Company website: www.sarahboxx.com

Podcast site: www.nolabelsnolimitspodcast.com

Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahboxxsherpa/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strategicvisioncoach/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boxxsarah/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SarahBoxx

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